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4 Factors on Being in a Long-Lasting Relationship

4 Factors on Being in a Long-Lasting Relationship

1) Trust

It is crucial to be reliant and honest with your significant other. If there is no honesty between the two of you, then the both of you will constantly be fighting. Eventually, you will distance yourself from your significant other thus, ending the relationship. You or your significant other may have secrets that you have told to each other that nobody else should know. If one of you speaks about it, it will ruin the trust that you both had with each other.

2) Companionship

You and your significant other must provide affection and demonstrate that you really love them. What this means is that both of you are thankful that you are together and have wonderful moments. There will be time when both of you have conflicts with each other, but both of you were able to reconcile and come up with resolution to your arguments. You and your significant other must also  support each other through the bad moments. It shows that both of you care and support one another through the hard times.

3) Being You

It’s important that your significant other knows you, the real you. Lying to your significant other about who you are will make them lose trust in you. Make sure that your voice is heard. This means that you have your own identity and that you can take control of being you. You shouldn’t be afraid to try new things with your partner or try his/her favorite hobbies. However, make sure that you tell your partner whether you like it or not.

4) Patience

Patience  means that you and your partner must take your relationship slow and steady to make sure that both of you don’t go too far into the relationship. Sometimes, you and your significant other might want to take the relationship to the next step but maybe one of you don’t want to. Be vocal in what you think is better in your relationship. Going fast in the relationship will turn into a more short-term relationship.

Final Words

If you are planning on being in a serious relationship, it depends on if you think you are ready to put the work in being on a relationship. It’s important to have these four factors. However, even though using these four factors, your significant other might start to lose feelings for you or start to become over obsessive about you. If you notice this, end the relationship. A healthy relationship with communication is better than an abusive relationship. Be ready to commit and time-manage because it’s not good to start a relationship when you are having personal issues or stress. Importantly, make sure that you get to know the person when you start a relationship, so that you are certain that this person is the correct person to start a relationship with.


Disclaimer: Relationships can be a serious topic. To further discuss about this topic, or learn more about healthy/unhealthy relationships, please contact the Wellness Center. The Wellness Center is at the Campus Center at Suite 217 and is open on Monday through Friday from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m.

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